If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
Victim of Dating or Domestic Violence
Safety Alert: The abuser may be monitoring your computer use. Consider using a safer computer such as one in a public library.
Remember: YOU cannot change a violent partner’s behavior, but you can take steps to try and remain safe.
CALL AN ADVOCATE who can provide support and discuss your options. St. Paul & Ramsey County Intervention Project at
651.645.2824, or the Minnesota Domestic Violence Crisis Line at 1.866.223.1111 if you are in Minnesota. If you live outside of Minnesota call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:
Develop a personalized safety plan
Have a set of clothes and sets of important documents (savings account records, check books, safety deposit keys, birth certificates, school records, deeds, other legal documents) for yourself (and children) stored at a friend's house at work or a locker at school in the event you need to flee quickly.
During violent situations
Think of a relatively safe place in your home to go if an argument occurs. Avoid rooms with no exits (bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (kitchens). Do not hesitate to lie or pretend to go along with the abuse in order to stay as safe as possible.
Arrange a signal with a neighbor to inform them you need help or assistance.
Have a code word with friends or family members so they know to call for help.
Plan a safe time to get away
You can call the police to come while you quickly pack to leave. Plan ahead and pack a bag you keep hidden with credit cards, medications, license, and other important papers. Have extra sets of car keys made.
Consider filing a petition for a protective order with the civil court
Contact an advocate to assist you in filling out the petition. St. Paul & Ramsey County Intervention Project at
651-645-2824, or the Minnesota Domestic Violence Crisis Line at
1.866.223.1111 if you are in Minnesota. If you live outside of Minnesota call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:
Call the Saint Paul College Public Safety Department’s for an escort at
651.846.1322. You may also inform public safety of an Order For Protection that you have out.
Consider filing criminal charges
It is against the law to physically assault, harass or stalk someone. You can report these behaviors to the local law enforcement agency.
Seek Medical Care and Document injuries